cricket.....I DO understand it.....your husband is a self serving , immature alcolohic who doesn't care about anyone else.....
The kids are still young....and don't have the life experience and the objectively, to objectively evaluate what is going on.....plus the fact that kids are still somewhat self-focused ....because they are still developing.
In addition, they may have learned what they saw, growing up. If their dad disrespected you....that is the behavior that they have learned. They may have become somewhat entitled (spoiled)....because they were allowed to...
However, the kids are still developing and moving into the larger world....they will learn......and, they NEED to learn......
dandylion