Originally Posted by
cricket123 
I asked son how come his dad did not explain the high risk age to him I got a little bit of an attitude about that one, maybe that was a good sign. Dk
You weren't looking for an answer to that question (because why would your son know why his father did or didn't do something), you were "throwing him under the bus". You were implying that your son's problems are your ex's fault -- whether they are or not, whether your son sees that or not -- that is between your son and his father.
You can choose to stay engaged in the chaos of your ex's behavior or you can stay out of your ex's relationship with the kids and concentrate on building your own healthy relationship with them built on trust, boundaries, consistency, and not encouraging any more drama between anyone.