holdonloosely.......it sounds like he is white knuckling it for the most part. White knuckling can last for a while, sometimes.....but, eventually that alcohol voice that whispers in the ear at all times for the alcoholic....takes over.
recovery is not usually a straight line. It can take a while for the alcoholic to truly accept that they are powerless over the alcohol.....denial is powerful and the fear of never having another drink is also very powerful.
Anything you say will not be received well, by him. You are the enemy, right now. Anyone and anything that comes between the alcoholic and their ability to drink in comfort is viewed as the enemy.
He is going to do what he is going to do. You have no control over that. Actually, he doesn't have control over himself, right now....the alcoholism does. He will have to come to that conclusion himself, by suffering his own consequences.
You have the right to protect yourself by setting your own boundaries of what you will accept and live with. You get to control your side of the street while he deals with his side.
I understand how upset and disappointed you must feel......
He just doesn't get it......
try to detach....detach....detach.....
dandylion