Well, this falls solidly under "Things I can't Control" so yeah, I'd work on letting it go & not future tripping over it.
Sounds like a relapse in my *personal* opinion. The speed of the cycle (a few sips to a few drinks to a few nights' drinking to a binge to a blackout to...) is up to him. Or not. Maybe he'll be resolute in his recommitment to sobriety & beat the odds.
May not matter if the underlying issues don't get addressed anyway, right?
But yeah, I'd consider that a lot of red flags flying if it were me & continue on with that in mind. Whatever that means to you - continuing financial protection, Plan B's, emotional preparedness. Just because he relapses doesn't mean that YOU have to.... why waste the energy, lol?
