Welcome, Wish!
Many here live happy and productive lives with their A's. Alanon is for those who love or have loved an A. At meetings you can learn many ways to bring more joy and peace into your life.
You know nothing you do will change your husband's drinking habits. That is up to him. You can however change the way you react to his drinking and the behaviors he shows when drinking.
I'm so glad you overcame your fears. :bravo Sometimes our posts are zany, sometimes helpful and sometimes we're so off base someone has to drag us back into reality! We've all "been there" and some have "done that". Sharing helps others find ways to resolve their own quandries.
I hope we see more of you!