Hi there, wishstar, and welcome. As you will have seen, this is wonderful place for support and advice. I'm glad you have overcome your fear - we are all in (or have been in) similar situations so you don't need to feel alone.
I hope you have done a lot of reading here, including the "sticky" and "power" posts at the top of this forum and the nar-anon one. You might have read what we call the 3 Cs - You didn't Cause it, you can't Control it and you can't Cure it.
Have you checked out al-anon meetings? They have been a great help to me in my recovery from the effects of someone elses alcoholism. As has the book "Codependent no more" by Melody Beattie. Also, the "Getting them sober" series have good advice in them too.
Looking forward to getting to know you.
Love
Minnie
xxx