Originally Posted by
sleepie 
I would have liked an ultimatum- how weird is that?
Likewise....I've felt exactly the same with my partner over the years. I wouldn't have chosen the booze, I know it. I still kept drinking though - because I could 'get away with it(?)' Awful. I can't turn back the clock and am left with huge regrets about the harm I've caused. Oh well, I can only do my best from here on in, and my drinking days are *over*.
My brother nearly lost his wife because of such a threat. I love my sister-in-law for that (and for being such a wonderful person in general).