Originally Posted by
LovesVWs 
Good point.
I keep trying to find reasons to accept it and make it work. I keep hoping the new medications will level things out. The reality is I just need to understand that I don't have to do this unless I want to. Not sure if I want to.
You do NOT have to continue this relationship if you don't want to. You do NOT have an obligation to wait until the meds work or something changes.
Unfortunately mental illness IS the reason behind lots of unacceptable behavior. Some of that behavior can be unlearned or changed with meds.....or not. In my mind its kind of like alcoholism, its a very sad an unfortunate disease. However, unlike alcoholism not everyone can get "sober" so to speak.