LovesVWs........it is great that you have no fear. That puts you miles ahead of many of the people who come to SR.
It does sound like it is wearing on you a bit....as you say that it is making you feel "crazy", yourself.
The effect on the children might be one yardstick to use if you are having a hard time knowing where to "draw the line". Those effects can last a lifetime.
It is said that the concerns fall into the categories of FOG.....fear...obligation....or guilt. I have noticed that many people have a lot of guilt when dealing with someone who has an illness.
Have you all ever considered a stint in one of the dual diagnosis treatment centers?
He is important (of course).....and, so is everybody else in the family.
Do you feel that h e couldn't get better without you..?
I do hope that they can figure out a schedule that helps him.....
dandylion