I agree: I haven't left him yet. I agree that money is not a good reason to stay in a failing relationship (I am finally legally financially protected, so this is a non-issue). I even agree that I have chosen to allow these circumstances to continue by staying. No arguments there. All I am saying is that, for the life I have today, I am not breaking apart. In fact, I feel pretty in control. He can be a screw up, and I don't feel like chasing him around, forcing him to behave the way I want. I see is a vast difference between the way things could have gone (or traditionally have gone) and the way that I am able to handle them today.
My scheduled obligations end in the first week of December. I will re-evaluate things then.