My brother was court ordered to AA even though he barely drinks, I have NEVER seen him drunk, on the other hand his girlfriend drinks a ton, they got in an argument, she said he's a drug addict and alcoholic ( he's not)
She said all this when she was drunk to the police, she has later tried to apologize to the court and our family, but the court is still making him go. Its a bit ironic because she's the alcoholic.
We still love her though.
Anyway, the court ordered him to AA, he actually really likes it, he says he's leanred a lot about addiction and he has more knowledge about alcoholism.
It won't kill you to go, if you guys were already drinking in the car and BF got a DUI, it's possible both of you should take a closer look at your drinking