I would have to say SR. The comments to my posts here were the most helpful for me. It helped me to step outside my marriage and look at it from an outsiders perspective so I could see just how dysfunctional it all was. It was very hard to hear at first, but really was the only thing that made sense deep down in all that turmoil. Educating myself about the disease and Alanon really helped too. Im still a work in progress but I have serenity now!