It is hard to define for me what helped me on recovery, but what definitely fueled the recovery was awareness, basically educating myself about the condition, and also the experience that people shared on SR (and there are several members that I could specifically mention whose input was incredibly encouraging and eye opening). And the steps were tiny at the beginning, but then I started going faster and faster toward the exit. I am really happy this morning, and dare say a bit proud, because 4 months ago, I thought I was deep in the mud and that I would never even file for divorce.