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Of course we're all with you - none of us suffer from terminal uniqueness!
I'm getting good at not reacting. And let me tell ya, it totally freaks my husband out! If he's late and he calls home, you can tell by his voice he's waiting for me to go off - and when I don't, he keeps asking, are you ok? Are you SURE you're ok???? He's all set to have a fight or argument and when I don't comply, it throws him off guard. I think it actually scares him more than it does when I DO go off!
Another thing I've learned to do. Whenever my husband is feeling guilty for not doing something or whatever, he always comes to me with this pitiful expression and says something like, "I'm feeling bad." I'll look at him blandly and I'll say something like, "Look, if you're feeling bad, it's all on you - I haven't said or done anything to make you feel this way, so don't look for me to reassure you or pat you on the back and say there there now, it's ok." He hates that too b/c he's looking for me to let him off the hook. Well, I'm done with that too!