Curmudgeon, Electrical Engineer, Guitar God Wannabe
Join Date: Jan 2012
Location: Where the mighty arms of Atlas hold the heavens from the Earth
Posts: 3,403
Blue,
I don't think we've had the pleasure of meeting since you joined us this spring.
I've been here nearly 4 years. What I can tell you based on my time here and my own experiences is if something feels "creepy", it's usually a good idea to pay attention to that feeling.
What I can also tell you is whether you're aware of this or not, you're under no obligation to put up with anything that compromises your own well being and/or your own morals and values. If your ABF wants to compromise himself by using drugs, he's free to do so...so long as you don't pay a price for his choices. As for morals and values, they are dormant in someone in active addiction. Hence the manipulative behavior you've seen and been on the receiving end of.
At the end of the day, Blue, all you have do to is ask yourself a simple question: is this the sort of life you want to live? If you can answer that honestly, then you have a path forward. Are you ready to take that path?
Keep us posted.