I won't accept being treated like crap, then being manipulated into feeling guilty for not accepting/responding to being treated like crap in an "acceptable" manner, nor do I need to feel guilty for having boundaries or disengaging.
I am getting better at just recognizing my own gut reaction and exploring that. I'm getting used to honouring my own feelings and needs and it's odd how it feels a bit selfish to just respect my own emotional limits...especially when just re identifying with those emotions and limits.
Wishful, your enlightenment is so well expressed here, disengaging is the biggest step in finding our own peace.
Self-care is not selfish, it's necessary to stay healthy and live life well.
Thank you for sharing your journey, your light is a beacon of hope to others.
Hugs