Originally Posted by
Needabreak 
You're codependency is playing games with you. She is not two separate beings. The mess she has created of her life and the nice woman are two sides of the same person. It's not something that you can change.
many an alcoholic becomes furious when you insinuate alcohol is causing the problems.
not getting angry and being receptive to this is considered a positive in addictionology.
it is not my goal to fix her. only get together occasionally although i got an invitation to visit her city.
i also feel compassion and sympathy since i learned a whole lot with my ex.