I think this -
I guess my thought is if I keep giving him money, albeit I do owe it to him. It just gives him more money to continue to drink every single day.
- is a backdoor way of trying to control him. You haven't really given up the idea yet that you have power over him and what you choose to do makes a difference in what he does.
That's just not true, as much as we would like it to be.
He is a grown man with the right to choose to drink no matter what you think about it. Time to focus on what you need to do for you, not what the consequences of what you do in relationship to him are on what he chooses to do.
I'd say pay, with check and receipt, and truly move on.
Time for you to be the center of your own life.
ShootingStar1