I wonder, Leshar - and I mean this as nicely as possible about your friend. Could being your authentic self sober, and feeling the very real emotions of losing your husband and learning to live your life again be too confronting for your friend?
When we stop numbing ourselves, we aren't the only ones who have to deal with our "real" emotions and who we are? Maybe it was easier for her when you were chirpier and drunk?
I'm not saying that to be mean, but just like we zoned out, I think some of our relationships could zone out also. It's no ones fault, it's just time to find a new ground for the friendship to be based on and see where the cards fall. Don't beat yourself up, you need to feel these things.
Congrats on the courage to face "The Box". That is a very brave thing.xx