mhns

Hello,

I am really struggling to make the best decision. My boyfriend and I have been together on and off for about 3 years now. His alcoholism is getting progressively worse. At one time he did have money and when I needed help he loaned me money. Now that he is starting to hit rock bottom, he is wanting me to pay him back. Im torn, while I do "owe" him this money. If I give it to him, I feel i will be enabling his alcoholism even more. I told him i will pay him back when he is ready to get help, but I refuse to enable him any longer. Of course he's flipping out, threatening me, tells me how much he hates me, doesn't love me anymore, etc. While I agree I do owe him the money, I just can't stand the thought ill be enabling him more. I realize he is an adult and oh I dont know what the best thing to do here is. If anyone can please give me thoughts or has had experience with this and could give me some insight, I'd greatly appreciate it. Thank you.