You say you don't have a doctor but can you register with one?
That's the only way that has worked for me.
They prescribed librium for 7 days which just chilled me out, no cravings whatsover.
Then prescribed acamprasate for up to a year which again deals with cravings. I've had some but they've been passing thoughts rather than "sit on your hands to stop yourself pouring a drink". If you've tried other ways before why not try something new? My children are 5 & 7 so I can relate to life with kids. But I am 23 days sober today and can amazingly say that I'm coping, I don't feel a massive void in my life, I think alot of that is down to the meds. I've been poisoning myself for years with alcohol so I was not opposed to taking something for the right reason.
Think about it....
If you're in the UK you can self refer to addaction.