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Old 09-29-2015, 04:08 PM
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Dee74
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Hi QFS

It took me a while to really grasp that the AV/Inner addict/UrgeMonster - call it what you will...really has no power of its own.

It needs us to get whatever it's wanting - it needs us to get the booze to open the booze and to pour it down our throats.

Yes its 'voice' is annoying and persistent but we can refuse to engage with it.

Urge Surfing is a really useful tool - it teaches us to stand outside the craving - observing it but not being a part of it...

http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...e-surfing.html

Coping With Cravings and Urges

and like a wave it will rise, peak, and then fall...the discomfort will end, all on its own, without us buying a bottle

If you can stand a little temporary discomfort and not give your addictive self what it wants, it will grow weaker and weaker and weaker, until one day it's no longer a determinant in your life

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