I remember when I was a kid...7-8 years old...my mom would ask me to be quiet for an hour or so for her nap time..and I knew that the whole world would come to an end if I didn't...
My husband however has the typical aggressive personality...he would blame me, you, the neighbour, the government, and the the Pope and the entire Church for his problems...it's not me, it's YOU! I am the victim and YOU are the cause of all my problems...I've learned that in therapy...I haven't learned the solution to that problem yet though...
I need to learn to set boundaries, you are so right Dee...and to set boundaries sober... so need a manual for that! I have no clue where to start....
I'm starting to realize that 99%of my problems are because I don't know how to set boundaries and my assertiveness skills are pathetic...