Sorry to hear your husband isn't letting you rest Patricia. Wish I could help. Have you guys ever tried counseling? I'm a big proponent of therapy, both individual and couples....
It's natural that your sobriety has made you more sensitive and upset the dynamic. It will settle, or it won't, but give it some time to reach equilibrium. Hugs to you.
I'm wrapping up day 3. Music and exercise today, yeah! It's so nice outside. I hope tonight I can spot the blood moon