i am going through a divorce because I needed change. I spent many years living with an AH. They do not change unless they want to change. You have no control over their drinking and yes, stop watching the hidden bottles, just causes hurt and confusion. You can spend years going around in circles and watching the hidden bottles. Spend the time concentrating on you.
You need to decide if change is or what change you want. Do you love this man? Are you willing to accept what he is and stand by him and willing to overlook his drinking. If you love this man do not expect change, love him the way he is, take the bad with the good. Live your life your way and take care of yourself. Do not get caught up in his drinking where you do not take care of yourself. Let him live his own life.
If you want out, get out and do not look back.