Holds...let me say im going thru the same man.. im almost at 60 days.. my girl is done and that was my first couple weeks sober.i though for sure it would of been when u got another dui recently but she says she hated be around me sober and all i talked about was AA and she couldn't stand it.. im truly heartbroken but im beginning to care less. If it was not meant to be nothing i can do.. she had a lot of issues and if shes not ignoring me shes ripping me apart in texts.. about everything im not.. it hurts but i do not fight back.. ive decided im not gonna contact her at all till the amends step. Im doing step 4 now.. good luck man