Beautiful,
I am wondering if you are clear about what you want...and if your aren't clear about it yourself how can you tell him? And how can you know it when you see it down the road after you've dumped his body?
Don't get me wrong...he is likely the jerk you say he is...but defining exactly what you want is the only clear way to see how short he is of your goal. Or if there is any hope that he can measure up.
((Hugs))
JT