I remember years ago being so very afraid my stbxah may be an alcoholic that I called AA for advice. The man on the other end of the line asked me if his drinking bothered me and I said yes. Mr. AA told me that if it bothers me and he still won't stop and is trying to hide it because he knows it bothers me, then he probably has an issue and the problem cannot be fixed by me. It took me several years to come out of my denial, but I did.
So, question is, do you have a problem with his drinking?