Hi Kimmi. I haven't read your other threads, so I'm not sure of your history, but I think one of the keys of whether someone is an alcoholic is whether it has caused a problem in his life. I also think one of the hallmarks of an alcoholic is they turn to drinking to numb their pain, which is not healthy. Yes, I may have a glass of wine when I had a stressful day, but I don't drink every single time I feel stressed.
Also, remember, alcoholism is a progressive disease, meaning that in time, the drinking will become more and more.