There's a kinship of suffering among those in recovery - we share our experience, strength and hope with each other as these can be highly effective tools for all, but especially for those just starting out / considering sobriety.
The ironic issue to me, and I was the same - is much of what is shared is totally ignored.
The friends above have laid out their ESH from over 100 years of sobriety and have been where you are. Follow their paths to start - we do not have to reinvent everything. A lot of the hard work is laid out in a template at our feet!!!
You can indeed start your sobriety for the betterment of your family, no question. Many of us do. At some point we come to understand by healing ourselves we give those around us hope........the reflection of my despair in loved ones eyes can turn to hope.
Welcome, glad you're here with us!