ftw,
yes, i was scared to do step nine.
and sitting across from the people, looking in their eyes and saying what i'd come to say was hard. listening to some of what they said back to me and really hearing was harder. hardest was to really be present to the fact that i'd really caused this pain and distress and harm. i'd really harmed this real person.
and each time i met with a person for a step 9, i walked away freer. each and every time. regardless of their response.
i didn't divide my list into three parts; i just started with what seemed the doable one at that time. though yes, i did know who'd be the toughest and left him for last.
you know the step nine promises? before we're halfway through....yes!