Hon, you can only be strong for yourself and support her the best you can but please remember addict can ONLY help themselves. The addict can ONLY make the choice to better themselves and they have to do it for themselves to to impress anyone else.
I am a recovering addict been clean since 2/21/04 aand proud of it. I got clean becasue i realized it was not a social thing to get hight it was a diesease and I was and are sick I will have to fight the ugly monsters for the rest of mylife. But having NAS metings and this room is the best! I used to say I am gonna do it for my kids and family, but it only worked when I did it for mysself.
I'll keep you in my prayers go to a meeting for support yourself, it will help you be strong!