rbotlove: Hello. I've read what you've posted prior and admire your strength and commitment to recovery.
I can relate to your pain and confusion and know that it is very hard (understatement!) to focus on recovering when in the midst of situations as you describe in the post above.
Fortunately, I have found support from others here at SR and information in the stickies at the top of the forum to be very helpful in keeping me focused on and pointing me in the direction of my own recovery.
As for him messing with you, though not suggesting his behavior be excused or minimized, I get the idea his addiction is his first priority and that he is not capable of thinking of you, of showing respect, and of choosing to stop the manipulating and throwing of blame darts.
Maintaining boundaries, though not easy, is well worth the effort and over time, this is one step that has helped me regain some sanity in my life.
Hugs
