His recovery needs to be his.
I think if you just focus on building a stable life for your kids and yourself right now you will find yourself again.
He's been lying and using the family money for drugs.
I think letting him come back to your home would be a huge risk
and not allow you to deal with the justifiable hurt and anger you are feeling.
He needs help you can't give, but he has to want it more than anything.
If you let him back home, there is no reason for him to get out of his comfort zone and seek treatment-
it will be so easy for him (and you) to fall back into your usual pattern except he is getting worse, and may well drag you all down with him.
I think your head knows this even though your heart wants to let him back.
Only you can decide what's best, but if you put the kid's needs first, the answer seems pretty obvious, hard as it is.
Hugs Rlong
