Hello Goff,
I gotta tell you that I never took sobriety seriously until my husband took leaving me seriously. I just couldn't choose the bag/bottle instead of him again!
Dawn is right on.. you shouldn't worry about "keeping" her sober. It's her call! One thing that did REALLY help my husband and I through some tough areas was the AA/Alanon program. It kind of laid out some loose "ground rules" Because we got together when I was still out there drinking and using neither one of us knew ME ! I was terrified and ever so relieved to have his support and strength. So we spoke in AA language for awhile... the first year had it's rough spots but now we have such an unbelievable great relationship and I finally know what love is.