gcolema....you didn't do anything wrong. I think that you were just trying to offer him what you had always wanted for your own life.
Too bad that he was unable or unwilling to treat what your were willing to offer as precious commodity.
I think that you might benefit from the book...."The Saber Toothed Tiger". It was written for those who have suffered domestic abuse....but, it does an excellent job of explaining the bonding that can occur with someone who is not good for us.
I think it might resound with you, right now.
dandylion