LexieCat, I haven't met with a lawyer yet. It's on my to-do list.. with about a million other things!
I left my job after I had the second child and went back to graduate school. I'll be done in a year. Since I can't afford mortgage myself (and I'm not trusting AH to do it), the tentative plan is to stay with my parents for the next year and rent the house out.
My MIL is still trying to help AH. She may be flying down to "force him into treatment." I feel so bad for her, as we speak she's placing her AB into nursing care...