Some practical suggestions:
Use paper plates and plastic forks so no dishes, eat at work at your desk when possible and don't cook when home.
If you do cook, pick a pan, use it, clean it, and put it in your car trunk or hide it so
he can't get it dirty while your away.
Buy only enough fresh food for yourself for a day and use up things in the pantry and don't replace.
I would also call the cops on him if he blows up at you and get him removed from the house--