Step 1 = I can't
Step 2 = He can
Step 3 = I'll let Him.
Depending on where you are in your spirituality that can either be the big Him or a little him.
I found Step 3 to be the most humbling. It isn't so much about giving up, it's more of an ego check. As in... who am I to think I know what is best for someone else, and who the heck am I to think I am in a position to want someone to change who they are to suit my own wants and needs.
I learned to accept others as is - where is, cause if you flip it around, isn't that what we want in return? To just be accepted for who we are and not have to fake it or pretend to be someone else just to fit in, or to please?
Another thing to keep in mind is that acceptance is not the same as condoning. You have to accept that some dogs just have a bad streak...but ya don't have to like it.