My dear Lovelife, why are you considering allowing him to live with you? If you know the same things will happen when he is released, why not consider doing something different? I finally learned that there was NOTHING, ABAOLUTLY NOTHING that I could do, say , or provide that was going to affect the outcome of my Son's life. He is a grown man and how he must live now, because of his addiction, is his choice. You are worrying what you are 'going to do when he gets out'. Shouldn't HE be worrying about what he is going to do? As long as you give him a comfy spot to land, he will never stand on his own two feet. He's a grown man not a juvenile. Let him own his manhood. He may fail, but that will be his choice. I know these are difficult decisions, because I made those decisions myself. I dove my Nate to the Rescue Mission when he showed up and needed a place to stay. I watched him leave my house two years age when I refused to allow him to stay. You are not alone in this struggle. We mothers are hard-wired to want to save them. You can not. He must save himself.
You and your son will forever be in my prayers. From this mom to you. Xxx