Your points are exactly right. I know I'm in a different place than him right now. He's always said that I'm ready for things before him, getting married, buying a house, quitting smoking, wanting kids (we don't have any yet.) Maybe it's a girl thing.
I know I need to give him time, it's just hard, because exactly to your second point, I have to live w/ him while he continues to drink every night and I don't enjoy being around him when he's drunk anymore. I don't know...I don't want to lose our relationship, but I also need to focus on my own health and sobriety at this point too...Thanks everyone for the advice/kind words/letting me vent..