Thank you Garden Mama for your reply. I have had contact with his wife and she has thrown him out and is divorcing him. She tells me he has not been sober since his release from jail a month ago. He, of course, writes that he is sober and is not using. He also writes that he has been hospitalized during this past month receiving " shock therapy." Of course, who to believe, that is the question. My son is 42 and has been an addict for the past 22 years. He has been in rehab 10-12 times, hospitalized for overdoses and suicide attempt and be incarcerated many times over these past 22 years. This journey is a tragic one and has me completely worn out. I enabled for a long, long, long time, until I quit and he walked away. My gut tells me he wants something from me, but my heart tells me I love him and want to let him know I care. I wish I had a magic wand that I could wave and reveal what I should do.