Originally Posted by
dorothytx 
It sucks because when he is not so drunk or first wakes up sober, he is amazing, loving, he takes care of me and protects me, supports me etc.
As I've come to learn, literally every single person who has ever been in a serious relationship with an alcoholic has said or thought this more than once. I think we tell this to ourselves and our peers in an attempt to convince ourselves that the abuse we've suffered is worth going through because our abusers are great people when they aren't abusing us.
It's kinda like if Tina Turner were to say, "You know, Ike is so good to me when he's not beating me."
Unfortunately, the good *and* the bad are what make a person who they are, and if the bad isn't acceptable then no amount of good makes it worth enduring.