Bunnyrabbit , I'm not proud to say this , but I have a first cousin we grew up together , partied , cried , was there for each other . We knew each other almost like sisters . She lives walking distance from me .
When I quit she knew it was for health reasons from alcohol . It didn't matter to her , she just kept coming or calling . She wouldn't listen to any thing. All she cared about was getting me to drink again with her .
It tore me up inside . I had to lay it on the line Flat out say . Do not come over or call me any more .
She's still drinking 2 years later - as you say A Hot Mess
Why I'm telling you this is , I knew deep in my heart if I hadn't . She would of drug me back down with her . It sounds like your friend wants that same ?