Dandylion, I've never heard of Jade. Thanks for sharing it.
Been to many alanon meetings in the past, but it has been awhile since I have been. He turned that into a fight too. So, I just stopped going. If I don't respond then he blows up about that. He's not physically abusive , but has been known to throw objects about the room a time or two. He's an emotional bully. And I am his target for whatever doesn't go his way ,he aims his anger at me.