I got sober with just SR over 3 years ago. My husband knew I was "taking a break from drinking." Very few friends and family I trusted knew I was "on a health kick." My husband now knows I am an alcoholic and some of those friends and family now know I don't plan on drinking again. So I have felt like I was getting sober in secret. Very recently things became difficult and I decided to give AA a try. Only my husband knows I go. I'm just not ready and not sure if I ever will be ready to tell others. If it came down to my sobriety being at risk, I would share and ask for help though. Because if I pick up again, eventually everyone will know anyway, and I will lose everything.