Originally Posted by Dee74

I think like crois says there's always underlying reasons for our unhappiness and why we drink, but it morphs into something else if we do enough drinking... so that it's no longer enough to tackle just the unhappiness or the drinking - they both need addressing.

I really think we need to tackle the drinking first tho - I don't believe there's any way to get to that deep rooted unhappiness/fear if we're still drinking. We need to know ourselves, our true selves before we can try and get to that nitty gritty.

I'm sorry you feel you have someone who got away Snooz...the only thing I can offer you is that our lives aren't over yet and none of us really knows what's just around the corner or just up ahead.

Every time I think I'm done with changes, more seem to come along...some are great and some are not so great but I'm happy with my life which is something I wasn't able to say for 35 years or so.

Good people deserve good things and I think by and large we find them

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