Crysalis, welcome to the newbie section!
I know my emotions were all over the place for months when I started out. I was single but bet it is difficult trying to balance your own emotions/feelings while trying to be supportive and respectful of a partners.
It sounds like you have a lot going on right now. What are you doing to take care of yourself and maintain your sobriety? This early on those need to be a priority.
I am sure somebody will be by soon who has been through a similar situation. In the meantime I am glad you are here! and I hope you read around the forum a bit.