I am recovering "in secret". My family does not and will not know. They're very judgmental and things went very south when I was in high school and they found out I was depressed and suicidal. Zero comfort. All judgment and it was blamed on me. Moving on...
My husband knows I'm recovering, as does my pastor and my best friend. I HIGHLY recommend that you discuss everything with your husband. Even though things may be rocky right now, it'll help you in the long run. I know for me personally, when I'm around someone who doesn't know, I will tell myself it's ok to drink, despite whether or not I want to. Accountability is huge!! I fully admit that I am an addict and an alcoholic and I cannot trust myself to be alone with alcohol without one of my accountability partners. I don't do AA, I don't do rehab or therapy.
Believe me when I say, accountability, if nothing else, will get you through this!!!