Originally Posted by
JessicaLives 
Im new here and looking to get as much information as I can before I confront my boyfriend about his drug use. Short backstory, he has bad anxiety for many years, had a rough childhood. Been using weed to help with anxiety and I had some issues with the smoke in the house but we resolved it, and its been helping him. Id prefer he see a doctor but he has a fear of doctors. the past few weeks hes been acting off in his mood and attitude towards me. one of our joint friends said he has been experimenting with smoking different things, and was worried he was getting in trouble with heroin. I havent confronted him yet. I passed through the anger stage today and now I want to discuss it with him as soon as I feel ready. If I can get him to see a doctor. How will the doctor react towards him if he admits illegal drug use? do they normally refer people to specialists immediately? Im thinking about getting family involved if I can confirm hard core drug use and he wont respond to me alone. If youve been through it, can you help me.
Jessica, I don't think we've had the pleasure of being introduced, so Welcome to the Board.
We often arrive at moments such as yours where we've had enough of the status quo and we're ready take to action. That said, just because you're ready to take action doesn't mean the addict is ready to take action. We can't make people do anything they don't want to do. It's a sad thing, and a difficult thing to accept. So I encourage you to be prepared for an argument, and I also encourage you to consider an exit strategy if things do not improve to your satisfaction.
Keep us posted going forward, and again, Welcome to the Board.